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is anyone but me frustrated and angry by the new "trigger warning" craze? can we not write serious material without being persecuted? does anyone else miss the days of old where you could write whatever you wanted?

[egretpelt]

it pisses me off, honestly. but then, anything that says that i can't write some intense gore if the notion strikes me, or write in-depth fight scenes, irks me slightly. i'm very much so for the freedom to write how you want - as long as you're not writing sex, what does it matter? with proper warnings in titles, it should be left up to people if they want to proceed with reading the content. after i've posted it, if someone wants to read it, and then feels uncomfortable... well, a) sorry, but that's great. that's probably what i was trying to do. b) you read that at your own risk, i always put warnings when i have "mature" content in something i'm writing. i'm a horror junkie, so, i tend to lean towards writing some morbid stuff. that's my personal opinion on the whole deal.

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Feb 6, 2016 1:13:53 GMT egretpelt said:

it pisses me off, honestly. but then, anything that says that i can't write some intense gore if the notion strikes me, or write in-depth fight scenes, irks me slightly. i'm very much so for the freedom to write how you want - as long as you're not writing sex, what does it matter? with proper warnings in titles, it should be left up to people if they want to proceed with reading the content. after i've posted it, if someone wants to read it, and then feels uncomfortable... well, a) sorry, but that's great. that's probably what i was trying to do. b) you read that at your own risk, i always put warnings when i have "mature" content in something i'm writing. i'm a horror junkie, so, i tend to lean towards writing some morbid stuff. that's my personal opinion on the whole deal.

^ THIS. trigger warnings completely RUIN the surprise of my posts. it lets the reader know what's coming and that upsets me :/ since i want them to be shocked and appalled. i know people in defense of tw say it's to keep people from jumping off a bridge, but like... who's gonna kill themselves over an rp post?!

[egretpelt]

to each their own, really, but if something in an rp post is going to send you into a fit, then maybe you need to consider the type of site that you are on. if it has the open ended freedom for such content, then maybe you're not emotionally ready, or mature enough for the topic of that site. i can understand something being triggering, but you need to be able to have a coping mechanism, and in the case of say, ptsd, then you need to seek professional help in order to over come that, because you don't need something holding you back. that, and real life doesn't have a trigger warning plastered over the top of a conversation.

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i once wrote an incest thread concerning a cat character and his daughter when i was 14 and it was never deleted/censored LOLOLOL

[egretpelt]

right? i remember my twelve year old, to fourteen year old self writing some messed up stuff, and never really getting censored for it, and got compliments on some of it for an 'ability to detail.' but now? i'd be viewed as a pariah if i wrote half that shit i use too.

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i wrote a ton of detail. it was fun. only on human rp's did i ever get flagged. and i didn't even know about trigger warnings until maybe the beginning of 2011 when i was just about to leave my site, and a girl comes on claiming she's being "triggered" by this and that and that i need to put a rule that states people have to be more sensitive. i'm like "go away" and i got run off a few days later.

[egretpelt]

i don't understand why people can't take responsibility for themselves, and make a conscious decision to not view things that they know are 'triggering' to them. like, just. take responsibility for yourselves people, please! it's not that hard...

[thicketstar]

It is a net. It is a safety net for people to be able to feel comfortable. When in actuality, WRITING and ROLE-PLAYING should be about expanding your horizons, pushing your comfort and growing. I didn't honestly know that trigger warnings were used on RP sites but I'm in a few facebook groups that literally trigger warning everything. Like "Trigger warning - locked my keys in my car" like WTF. WTF IS THAT WHO THE FUCK HAS RESIDUAL ANXIETY ABOUT THEIR GODAMN KEYS.

In terms of RPs an trigger warnings, I agree 110% with Ulv. If you can't handle kitty sex and kitty incest (SOMETHING THAT IS LITERALLY SO COMMON IN THE ANIMAL KINGDOM) then you need to rethink your maturity level and your ability to be on a literate roleplaying site run by 20+ year olds that are grown up adults.


Also internet doesn't think incest is a word.


/AffieRant

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^ FUCKING SPEAK AFFIE. FUCKING. SPEAK. GIRL.

ok we broke the swearing rule. SHAME ON YOU and me. coalie out. xD

[thicketstar]

Affie thought the swearing rule was only for the cbox *runs away in shame*

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i totally agree that people need to take responsibility for themselves. the real world is not going to coddle your needs, it is up to you to do what is best for you. while i can't say i've ever been triggered by a post, i can say that i have removed myself from Facebook off and on because of some of the content i have seen on there. the key point being that i removed myself from the situation, i didn't demand the world change for me.

i totally agree that if people are going to be triggered by certain material, it is their duty not to read it. it is not my duty to restrict myself (within due reason, of course).

[little ulv]

of course, i get most sites/servers have that 'tos,' and each site has it's own rating, but as long as you don't go outside of the pressured rating for the site, have fun. who cares? take responsibility for yourself, and don't censor other people when they're really not doing anything more than expressing their creativity. as long as you're not intentionally posting something to hurt someone, or harass them, or slander a person/a site, then you do what the hell you want to do. this idea of 'coddling everyone' for every little single insecurity, and assumed need that they have is stupid.

of course, i get if it's in a chat box, or unmarked. but, that's two people's responsibility - one to take the responsibility for what they are putting out there, and mark it if it needs to be mark, and for the other person to take the knowledge of what they can take, and look away when it happens.

i mean, some things make me uncomfortable, and i know my limits. i don't actively seek out things that i know will make me uncomfortable.people really just need to get over themselves and realize that the real 'adult' world isn't going to censor itself, and coddle them just because they're sensitive to a topic.

the only time i get asking someone to stop talking about something, is if it's in face to face conversation, and someone is being disrespectful about something. like, for instance, if someone is making a rape joke, i'd politely ask them to stop for the sake of people who could be made uncomfortable for that... but if they want to go write a scene of that, good for them, if that' what they want to do with their writing. as long as it's marked as 'mature' then it's up to other people to make the choice if they want to read it, and if they choose so, if something begins to make them uncomfortable... well, scuttle off and stop reading it. it's really that damn simple.

i don't get why people don't understand that?

but, i'll stop repeating myself now. xD